Self-Esteem For A Lifetime

Excerpt-The Introduction

Building your child’s self esteem is a process that begins at birth and continues throughout a lifetime. In Self-Esteem for a Lifetime, you will learn how building your child’s self-esteem influences:

• How and what your child achieves
• How your child socializes
• How your child loves
• How your child will make decisions throughout his/her life

I am writing this book for parents, educators and all people who love children to help prevent the development of difficulties for their children, as well as to offer help when a problem does occur. As I examine thirty years of experience with children, their parents, and people in general, I find self-esteem to be the core ingredient for success in every arena of life. It is self-esteem that influences all of our behaviors, choices and decisions. If you were to observe those suffering emotional, behavior and relationship problems, you would find low self-esteem to be the common denominator in all cases.

I wanted to write a book that focuses on the essence of the parent-child relationship, the most significant relationship for any child. My work, research and lectures have addressed many different aspects of raising children and family dynamics. I decided to concentrate on isolating the “key” element in a child who is happy with himself/herself and happy with the world. Once I collected all of my thoughts, self-esteem stood out loud and clear. Believing as I do that parents are the real experts, I gathered with groups of parents in order to hear their ideas, observe their responses and share our stories. This process is what this book is all about. Listening and learning from all the families I have worked with paved the way. I am so grateful and honored to have been welcomed into the private lives of so many. I cherish your trust in me.

This book in many ways represents my own personal and professional odyssey. It feels as though I have lived several lifetimes since my days as an elementary school teacher in Syracuse, New York in 1969. Since that time, I have been a wife, a mother, a single parent, a wife again, a mother-in-law and a grandmother and have met thousands of families in so many different settings. My career has taken me from the once to radio, television, college campuses and lecturing in a wide variety of settings.

Parenting is the most difficult job in the world. Who prepares us? My greatest challenge and most demanding role, without a shadow of a doubt, has been raising my two daughters, now 31 and 35. My own family has definitely been my most significant laboratory for learning. I often revisit the ideas presented in this book in order to refresh my skills and improve my relationships with my two adult children.

Regardless of how hard I work at it, I must often remind myself, “There are no perfect parents!” On the other hand, parents can make a tremendous difference. With all of this responsibility, most of us are faced with anxieties, fears and self-doubt. How many times have you asked yourself that age-old question, “DID I DO THE RIGHT THING?” Read on to gain the confidence, and learn new skills that will help you and your children every step of the way.

I began writing this book with the hopes of offering parents assistance and support with the challenge of raising young children. As I complete this project, though, I can see that all of the concepts and suggestions I make apply to your relationships with your children at any age. In fact, building self-esteem in others will improve all of your relationships and have a profound impact on how you feel about yourself. I hope this book feels like a helping hand, offers food for thought, and becomes a friend to confide in. Raising children today is a unique challenge. With the many changes in society, there are so many new stresses on both parents and children. It is my hope that this book offers you the knowledge, support, and reassurance that all of us need. Self-esteem is a gift your family will treasure today, tomorrow and for many years to come.

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